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 Activists operating in someplace like Afghanistan do not need to know about these other alien forms of child control. They will already be familiar with local methodologies of coercive control.
+The ways of coercive child control that look like they must surely succeed can indeed force superficial changes in a child's behavior, but in the long run they turn out to be counterproductive. When people who know what really motivates misbehavior and who can give parents a dependable way to achieving parental success and peace in the family, that success will be rewarding to the parents. It will also be one small step in changing a culture of strongly coercive control.
+When I taught in a so-called ghetto junior high school,I once had a boy about fifteen years old who was continually disrupting my attempts to teach. I complained to a psychologist friend of mine, who was not sympathetic. He told me the problem was my own fault. How so? The child had a dependency need, as does every child, for attention. Infants left in cribs without being given any attention will die as a result. Older children survive but make countless attempts to get their need for attention satisfied. The child in my class was not having his dependency need for attention satisfied. He threw a spit ball or did something else of that sort, and I paid attention to him in the process of scolding him. He got his dependency need met. He probably would have continued to manipulate me for attention even if I had spanked him. My friend told me to pay attention to him when he wasn't doing anything bad. The problem was completely gone in two weeks.
+I think any parent would feel as gratified as I had felt if they were enabled to control a similar problem.
+That is just one example.